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Reach out and touch someone

Today I checked out the Indiana Review because I read somewhere online that one of my favorite poets – a Filipina by the name of Conchitina R. Cruz – had been featured there a few years ago. As I was browsing the submission guidelines (because I live a rich fantasy life), I came across something that struck me. It read:

“We look for poems, stories, and nonfiction that are well-crafted and lively, have an intelligent sense of form and language, assume a degree of risk, and have consequence beyond the world of their speakers or narrators.”

Have consequence beyond the world of their speakers or narrators. Poof! I believe that is the accepted sound effect of a fantasy bubble bursting.

I don’t think of my writings as having any consequence beyond my own world. Why should they? I write in my world, wage battles with my demons (which I admittedly am quite fond of, them being selfishly mine and sometimes the only company I keep) in my world, and yes, even that rich fantasy life of mine is entirely grounded in my world, or the one I create in my head. Which still belongs to my world.

I have my moments of larger consciousness, but I have this nagging feeling that it isn’t truly a venture beyond. Likely, it’s simply a result of my personal world expanding, stretching to accommodate new ideas, life-shifting revelations. Perhaps it’s just the slack created after having exerted so much tension expelling what no longer serves me. The way a rubber band never returns to its original size after an afternoon of “whoever has the least number of welts wins.” (Okay, so that’s not really a game, but it could be.)

I say to myself that the only way my writings will have consequence beyond my world is if somehow, there is someone out there on a similar journey, whose world closely matches mine, or at least shares a more-than-incidental bond. Maybe my demons have cousins or old college roommates somewhere, co-majors in Fair Fight Pretense 101, holding their power in check as an act of mercy toward that kindred soul.

I guess the trick would be to find a way to make my words reach that other not-so-doppelganger-but-close-enough person. Maybe something of mine will stretch the elastic borders of their world. Whether or not I find out about it should be secondary; the consequence is no longer in my control.

Perhaps that is why many people blog. Not just to document their lives, or show off their language skills. Maybe, in some way, we are trying to let our words reach the widest audience possible, increasing our chances of touching someone else’s world. Maybe this is our method of affirming our uniqueness while seeking a degree of sameness with another soul. Or maybe just the possibility of having consequence beyond our world is enough comfort, enough tangential company in an otherwise solitary existence.

“Aloneness is a state of being, whereas loneliness is a state of feeling. It’s like the difference between being broke and being poor.”

Townes Van Zandt

I thought that perhaps I write to purge my mouth of the words I cannot say out loud, to make sure they don’t just echo back to me across an emtpy space and confirm the suspicion that there is no one else out there. But maybe I just write to disperse the loneliness I feel, to create words that keep me company. Maybe that’s all it is.

Driver’s seat


I just returned from a three-week trip to the Philippines. In some ways, I’m still trying to process thirteen years of change. But it wasn’t as bad as I thought it would be. Places and structures look absolutely different, but the people, sounds and smells are all still the same.

I have lots of musings and thoughts about the trip, and even more experiences both funny and momentous (well, at least for me). But I’m not writing about those right now. Something else has been weighing on my mind.

I’m trying to understand why I’m so different when I’m back home. Not in the sense that I no longer fit in or can’t adjust. On the contrary, it’s like I’ve suddenly rediscovered my real self, or at least what’s left of it. It’s like part of me went to sleep when I left Manila, and the auto-pilot me took over running my life in the US. Which seemed like a sensible thing to do then, because the auto-pilot me is more practical, more sensible, and follows instructions beautifully.

But on manual mode, my old goals return, old plans set aside start resurfacing. Dreams reappear, giving birth to even more dreams made up as I go. I magically feel more hope, more promise, more drive to actually try and, in Joseph Campbell’s words, do what the push is out of my existence.

I visited old haunts, flirted with old ghosts. I saw old friends, who say I still look the way I did when I left. Okay, so maybe I just feel different. Then we talk, the usual, “so what are you doing now?” And then there it is. The look of surprise, or bewilderment, at my answer. Almost to a person, they say they would have thought I’d be doing something in music by now. Or poetry, literature, writing. Something creative. Anything in that world. And the sharp pang in my chest—this primal ache and longing and painful regret—tells me that somewhere inside, I’ve been wondering the same thing too.

So a dear friend says, Why not? It’s not too late. All you need is an arranger. And I start thinking, yes! Why not indeed? And the excitement builds, and now I’m singing my old songs in my head again, going over my lyrics, imagining how the piano solo will sound, or where a hint of strings will fit in. All the great things the arranger will do for my work. I tell myself it’s about time; I should have done this years ago. I’ve loved music since I was a little kid, been writing it since I was eleven. What in the world kept me from taking the plunge? Didn’t I always say this was what I should be doing with my life?

Now I’ve been back in the US less than a week, and already the doubts have crept in. I listen to some favorite songs, and think there’s no way I can even approach that. So okay, I tell myself maybe I can just write lyrics. Then I put on Ghost by the Indigo Girls, and am enamored all over again of the words and the brilliant use of imagery that I paralyze myself. I think, good grief, there really is no way I could ever do THATwith words.

So I start singing my songs a little less. Picked up my guitar, and put it back down. Sat at the piano, then the phone rang and that was the end of that. Now I’m back to checking email, catching up on work, getting back on track with chores. Slowly the music and writing plan is inching back to the “on hold” side, and sadly, I’m letting it happen again.

I need to be rid of the auto-pilot me. I need to take back the reins and start running things myself again. I need to remember what makes me truly happy, and completely alive.

And I need to stop just writing about it and start doing. Carpe diem. Carpe vita.


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Is this thing on?

<taps microphone>

Earth to Ivoryhut, earth to Ivoryhut. You still with us?

Okay, so I’m really bad at this blogging thing. I’ve been online an obscene amount of time lately, but have I made time for this blog? No. Too busy doing everything else but. Oh, to be in high school again, with only homework to worry about and the rest of the waking hours at my disposal.

So many things have been going through my head the past weeks. Reflections on the “new immigrant” experience, precipitated by a friend’s relocation to Australia. Reminiscing about that first brush with love, and the soundtrack of the whole crazy, wonderfully intoxicating ride. Mundane thoughts on why it’s such agony trying to come up with something new to prepare for dinner every night.

I can’t seem to hold on to any profundity for long. Other things keep barging in. Did I remember to put the wash in the dryer? Why are the leaves on my hibiscus turning white? Is that chicken defrosted yet or do I have to soak it in water? And just like that, poof! The epiphany’s gone. Worse, sometimes I don’t even remember what it was all about in the first place.

Thankfully, music’s been a real savior. I’ve been rediscovering the wonder of finding music that reaches inside you and nudges your soul awake. I’ve even started writing music again. I can’t believe how much I’ve missed this, the power to fashion one’s own salvation from the grind, the gift of creating a private sanctuary. Never mind that nobody else gets it. It may be perfect for me and only me. Even if no one else wants to share it.

Thank goodness I was too much of a child wimp to rebel against piano lessons. I don’t know what I’d do if I couldn’t play. I’d probably resort to singing. Which would just be cruel to so many people in so many levels.

43 things

I hate lists.

But last weekend, I saw this online, and thought it would be a cool idea to actually write down all these things I want to do, places I want to go to, people I’d like to meet.

I want to believe that the act of putting everything on “paper” might actually impel me to take the next step. But then I remember how my scores of post-it notes and personal lists are still lying around somewhere collecting dust.

Oh well. Maybe seeing them on a screen (since I spend most of my time in front of one anyway) and being able to post entries documenting my progress will make a difference. Maybe a gaping blank page will shame me into actually doing some of the stuff so that I’d have something to report.

Or maybe this is just Useless-Post-It-Reminder ver. 2.0. But hey, at least I’ve upgraded, eh? (Oh, me of little faith!)

By the way, can someone remind me that my list is here? I seem to have run out of post-its …